Online Coaching to Overcome Shy Bladder (Paruresis)
From the time I was 10 until the age of 25, I struggled with paruresis - more commonly known as shy bladder. I did not realize at the time that this is a condition that millions of people suffer from. I thought I was all alone in it.
I avoided public restrooms at all costs. Often, if there was even one person in the restroom, I couldn’t use it. I experienced intense discomfort and shame as I tried to hide my difficulties from friends and loved ones. Things got so bad that, even if I was in immense pain having to pee so badly, I just couldn’t.
If you are struggling with shy bladder, then you know what it’s like. Whether it’s avoiding liquids or obsessively planning ahead, life with shy bladder doesn’t feel like fully living.
Thankfully, I discovered a way out.
No more fear, no more pain. I found a way of healing that helped me regain my sense of calm, confidence, and control.
My name is Jack Rubin. I’m a licensed therapist and I’m here to help you overcome this condition that can cause so much misery.
If you are interested and ready to get started, click here to connect with me directly. To learn more about shy bladder and how I can help, read on.
What is shy bladder?
Shy bladder (also called paruresis, pee shyness, or urination anxiety) is a psychological reaction that prevents people from using the restroom when others are nearby. People with shy bladder typically experience symptoms such as:
Not being able to pee in public restrooms no matter how badly they have to go
Intense fear of being heard or seen using the restroom
Avoiding situations where public restroom use may be necessary (e.g., social situations, travel, or work opportunities)
Drinking less fluids to decrease the need to urinate
Feeling anxious, on-edge, or nervous when trying to use a public restroom
Checking or looking for restrooms that are empty or only have one toilet
Returning to one’s home over lunch breaks or other breaks to urinate
What causes shy bladder?
Shy bladder can be caused by many different things. Some people continuously feel unsafe while using public restrooms when they’re younger and develop it slowly over time. Some begin to experience it because of abuse, assault, or some other traumatic event. And for some the cause is unclear - which can make it feel that much more distressing.
As is the case with many body-based difficulties, shy bladder happens when the mind learns to fear the body. Signals of needing to urinate when others are nearby start to create feelings of anxiety, worry, and even panic about not being able to go. Unsuccessful attempts to go lead to experiences of further embarrassment, frustration, and shame. Over time, these things promote a pattern of avoidance that actually makes shy bladder worse.
Each time we go along with the pattern, the anxiety grows and grows. You might begin to feel overwhelmed, totally stuck, or even defeated by shy bladder.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
How can coaching sessions help with shy bladder?
Coaching sessions for shy bladder are specifically designed to help you break the cycle of avoidance, develop psycho-physical skills for healing, and learn to communicate well with your body.
As is the case with many forms of anxiety, it involves gently and slowly confronting your fears along with the support of a professional.
Coaching sessions can help you:
Learn to use public restrooms comfortably without fear and worry
Uncover and address the causes of your shy bladder symptoms
Process and work through the physical, mental, and emotional components that are contributing to paruresis
Practice breaking the cycle in a safe space
Tap into your capacity for calm and self-reliance
Heal and unburden the wounds of the past that are creating issues in the present
Get connected to your body and develop self-care tools to help you heal